Sometimes in business we find ourselves backed into the corner known as ‘have to’. We find that we are left with few other choices, the job HAS to be done NOW before deadline, in the 11th and ¾ hour and we HAVE to be the one to do it or WILL it to happen. We find ourselves pushing, pushing, pushing… like Sisyphus and his boulder. Do you know that feeling? Maybe you feel that way RIGHT NOW…
And then there are the days when everything rolls right along. When we are chasing the boulder back down the hill… or when we stop chasing, lay down on the hillside, and roll down the side like when we were 5! Life is pure bliss! We live with abandon, play like children, and everything seems to come to us as if by magic!
So what is the difference?
In my experience the difference is our desire. Do we WANT to do what we are doing or do we ‘have to’? In self-help a lot of people call this ‘alignment’, when our current actions align with our thoughts and desires.
In business, this can really make a HUGE difference in implementation, productivity and results! When you are not aligned with your work, when you are doing work you ‘have to’ do, how do you feel? Do you love the work you are doing? Are you gentle and loving with yourself? Are you proud of the results? Are you proud of the process? Do you make a lot of mistakes? Hit a lot of roadblocks along the way?
What about projects you love? What are the results like?
In my experience, when I am fully aligned with a project, a client, or a task, the entire thing flows. I have so much fun that I lose myself in it. And even if the client has ‘tweaks’ and changes, it is OK because that is a part of the creative process, the flow of life and of collaboration. And as I get to know what they like to see and what they expect I get better and better at anticipating just how to put together for them the pieces and parts that they will love each time! For ME this is joy– what about you? Where is your joy?
Sometimes we don’t even realize WHY we love or don’t love specific work. All we know is how we feel once we get in and get our hands ‘dirty’. If we’re committing to a client and the client is relying on us, and we’re relying on income, that break our business. It could mean more repeat customers and leads, or none!
So what do we do?
Knowing your vision, how you see yourself, how you want to help clients, where your values lie, where your passion lives, and how you want to effect change in the world—knowing this information in a simple but powerful statement can save you the missteps of finding yourself in the ‘have to’ trap. Once I understood that my passion was all about ‘supporting successful consultants, coaches, authors and speakers who were looking for a partnership to take their business to the next level with business development, email marketing, upgraded website design, and social media’ I knew who I wanted to work with. I knew which jobs I wanted to focus on. I knew how I wanted to partner with people.
I recently worked with a client in which we did a Visioning session. She thought that she would not like to coach clients because she felt strange taking people’s money and wanted to help them. When we identified that she really wanted to help them to ‘support’ her clients and to be of value to them and to nurture them along the way, she could see coaching as an even value exchange. She became excited to coach and could see herself offering group and private coaching services. Her vision had to be formulated FIRST. She could not move powerfully forward until she KNEW that she could serve in alignment with her values.
That is the power of WANTING versus ‘have to’.
As a Virtual Assistant, knowing the Vision FIRST impacts the outcome of the work 150%. When I know the Vision, I know what the client is looking for. I know what I am striving for. I know what success looks and feels like. It’s not just tasks for the sake of clocking hours and invoicing. It’s tasks with an end in mind. With that over-arching Vision, the actual results are better, more in line, with the client’s desires and expectation. In the long-run it saves time, cost, and confusion. We’re on the same page from day 1!
My happiest and most successful clients partner with me by first taking part in the Visioning process. We work together to see eye-to-eye, to clarify “Where you are, Where you are going, and how to best get you there.” Even if you currently work with a coach or consultant, by giving your Virtual Partner this insight, our relationship and our process along the way is stronger and the results are better for YOU!
So today, as you set about your to-do’s I challenge you to look at your ‘have to’ list and to see if there is a way you can shift those somehow into ‘want to’s. If you can find a way to bring yourself into alignment, you may find yourself tumbling down hill, laughing, playing and having fun! If not, maybe find someone you know who is TALENTED and already having fun to help you with those tasks (yes, delegate it can be easy =) ).
And to schedule your Visioning session with me, contact me today!
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